Thursday, July 19, 2012

YAY or NAY: Party of One?



















Before I was single, I would have never even considered hitting up a restaurant alone. Waaaaaaay out of my comfort zone.

Now, I do it ALL the time.

I actually find the quietness of the whole experience very enjoyable. Watching all the chattery people entertains me and nothing is gives me more satisfaction than eavesdropping on diverse conversations when possible.

But I remember the first few times I ventured into a restaurant, as the newly single me, and the hostess said "just one?". Embarrassment ran though my veins and I nodded my head in shame. Sheepishly I follow her to my table and avoid any eye contact with anyone. Talk about awkward.

However, the more I powered through the uncomfortableness and made myself do it, the less stupid I felt... and pretty soon, I kinda dug the whole thing!

I've finally gotten to the point when they say "just one?", I now smile and think no, not just one.... THE one! and say "Yes, just me. Thank you."

As my Little Dude says, with his hand clenched in a fist by his face, Yeah baby. Yeah.

And you know.... I do it with movies even. Although, I'll admit that the 10pm showing of Inception probably wasn't the best film to pick as my very first attempt. I was confused and tired and sweaty and had absolutely no one to converse with after it was over. I was tempted to talk to the two hairy chested young bucks in wife-beaters (who sat one seat away from me in a vacant theatre) buuuuuut decided I better not open that door at 1 o'clock in the morning... alone... in a dark and deserted parking lot... ha! Now I do matinées and I feel much more safe :)

**SO, YAY OR NAY? Are you comfortable dining out alone? What about going to movies alone?


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25 comments:

  1. I do this all the time. I go to lunch by myself after I go to the temple by my self. I often go see a movie alone when the kids are in school. And I love it. I get those looks from time to time "oh that poor lady has no one to be with isn't that sad?" It makes me laugh when someone says "if you go the the Movie or Lunch or Temple ex, at this and this time then I can go and you won't be all alone" I think you are missing the point, I don't mind company. I am not a social out cast. But I don't NEED any one to be with me to feel secure. I am good on my own. And when I am with friends I can even -GASP- go to the ladies room alone. It feels good to be at this point in my life.

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  2. I laugh because i have this childhood memory of going to work with my dad. and come lunch time, we went to his office's cafeteria and i asked him who he ate with and he said he always ate lunch alone. and it devastated me. like i was probably 5 or 6 and i still remember that instance. and now...i'm looking for all the alone time i can get! i love my time with my husband, my girlfriends, my kids...but don't think i'll shy away from doing something just bc i have to do it alone! i love some good food and a book and a quiet 30 minutes to myself. there's a def learning curve but so glad i branched out!

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  3. I have never done either but I kind of have always wanted to go to a movie by myself just havent really thought about it. But I really enjoy my alone time so.... I feel like I would enjoy that.

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  4. I am totally comfortable doing restaurants and movies alone. I also prefer going to a matinee as opposed to prime time. Not only a little bit cheaper on the ticket price, but frequently less crowded. I don't go out to a restaurant much on my own, but it certainly does not bother me....I will usually take a book to read or catch up on emails on my phone at least while I am waiting for my food. Although it is nice to have a companion, we single ladies can't stop living life because one is absent. We have to rock the life we have been given, not only for yourself, but also for the little men that we are raising - teaching them that strong independent women can be a good thing!

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  5. I totally do movies alone when I get the chance. Rob and I will want to see different once in a while so he'll go to his and I go to mine. It's great! I've not had the chance to eat alone but I think it sounds so appealing to me. The idea of just being alone out and about sounds so enjoyable to me. And like you said the peace and quiet of listening to things around. Hmmm....I think the next chance I get I'm going to venture out and do a little shopping and a lovely dinner by myself. :) Sounds like heaven right now.

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    1. BTW, so fun to see you and chat yesterday! Love ya so much Jace!! Please do come out more often!

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  6. Well, honestly, I don't do either alone. And I think I'd rather do a movie than dinner alone. I"m not sure why, I guess I feel like I wouldn't know where to look or something. I'd have to bring a book.

    I've been married for several years and I'm still in my twenties. So, the concept of doing things alone has slipped through my fingers, and in a way I'm grateful for that in my life. I just turns out, however, that I love being alone. I especially love travelling alone and do a lot of that. But I will probably always love sharing dinner with my man.

    However, I think women like you are inspiring. If you're single, I think it's so good to get out and still have fun!!

    I died laughing when you said you were scared, confused and sweaty. I don't know why, but that got me!

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  7. Yes! Eavesdropping on conversations is best and that's why it's good to do things alone sometimes if you enjoy that sort of thing! I think people that do the restaurant thing alone are awesome. I have never gone to a sit down restaurant to order off of a menu. If I'm going to eat by myself (especially when I was single) I go to a deli or coffee shop or something and I read. I went to the movies by myself last year for the first time and I LOVED IT! I am planning to hit a matinee or a nighttime movie one of the evenings my husband has class before the end of summer, just because. It's fun! Loved our Inception story! :)

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  8. I've done the restaurant thing a few times but never a movie. If you can do it, I can do it, right? And for some reason a movie by myself sounds really fun...minus the hairy chested bucks that might meet you in the parking lot past midnight...better opt for the matinee.

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  9. Years ago I never would have...now I totally would!!! I don't get ANY alone time so that sounds wonderful to me...in fact...I might just go do something by myself! :)

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  10. I love going to lunch and cafes by myself. I haven't really gone out for dinner alone, except for when I've been traveling. I used to go to movies alone a lot though! It's so fun! I sneak in my favorite snacks :)

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  11. Jace I have been going to movies alone for years now. The first movie I went to was The Proposal and I was embarrassed to laugh out loud. I have a loud laugh and didn't want to attract attention to myself as the "single" girl. Half way through the movie I couldn't contain myself. I was proud to be alone. Proud of myself that I was comfortable enough in my own skin to go alone. Watching it alone was the same as going with my x husband anyway. As far as eating alone, I'm all for it. A meal with no kids? YES PLEASE. I can tell you as a server, no one cares if you dine alone. It doesn't even cross my mind seeing a single diner. However, my sister cries when she she's any old man dining alone because she automatically thinks that he is alone because his wife has passed away. She actually joined a man once for his meal when she was in high school.

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  12. Yes and yes! I also felt awkward in the beginning, but not anymore. I own it!!!

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  13. I've done a lot of eating alone in deli's and coffee shops, and at the park, etc, but never at a sit-down place! Maybe i'll give that a shot! But i don't think i'd like to do a movie alone, i'm one of those people that gets more enjoyment out of the company than the movie. i love talking about it and even getting excited about the previews with someone, if i went alone, i would probably keep ALMOST saying something and then getting sad because there is nobody to say it to!

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  14. I have done both, but with sit down restaurants/order at the table-it's when I am traveling and not in my town. When I see people alone I assume they are on a business trip.

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  15. Meh! I remember when I was living in my first apartment alone. People would always question why I didn't have a roommate... I just always told them I didn't play well with others. :D In all seriousness though, Ive always loved hitting up the theater on a Sunday afternoon. Here in So. Utah, only old people go to the the theater on Sunday afternoons. Theres something I quite enjoy about knowing I'm 30 years younger than anyone else in the theater. :) It also keeps them from talking to me, which I admit, is something else I enjoy. If I'm out alone, don't try and include me, I'm doin it on purpose people! ;)

    As for the restaurant aloneness, also one of my favs! I run my own business and I find sitting down and being in my own head (without the need to check my phone every two minutes) very calming when work is stressful. It's also always great to take a notepad and jot down schedules, new ideas and plans for the future. I always walk away feeling like I've been rejuvenated and I have a plan! (Even if I never actually stick to the plan) LOL

    Anne

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    1. Anne!!!

      Have I welcomed you yet?? If not, I'm sorry for the delay and WELCOME!!!!!

      Thrilled to have you here... What business do you own BTW???? How cool is that you little entrepreneur, you!!!

      Xoxo

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  17. I am going to put both on my list of things to do. I can go anywhere alone, but actually sitting down...slowing down...is hard for me. I really should do this :)

    xoxo

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  18. Given the opportunity, I would LOVE it! I went to the movies once when my littlest was a newborn, but I haven't gotten to since then.

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  19. I kind of love doing things "alone" once in a while. I hardly ever get the chance, but when I do, I go "Oh, ya! This is what it's like to not have to have your eyes on children 24/7 and acctually get to enjoy your surroundings!"

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  20. we SHOULD all go to a movie! :)

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    1. I concur with this!!!! How fun would that be???

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