Tuesday, August 18, 2015

My Name is Bonnie and I have learned to Embrace the Moment.

My Name is Bonnie Lee Mahler and I have learned to Embrace the Moment.

Life is an adventure, full of twists and turns. To this day, I have no regrets about the experiences and the choices that I've made to bring me to where I am today. I honor the past in every way. I've loved, I've lost, I've trusted, I've hurt, I've missed, I've made mistakes, but above all, I've learned! I never would have imagined the path that my life has taken. I have experienced the depths of sorrow and essence of true joy! 

The experience of losing two sons within two years apart has taught me to embrace every moment, for that is all we know for sure. 

In 1996, my husband and I and our 3 sons were on Bear Lake reservoir in Northern Utah. Our family was active in all kinds of outdoor activities and we loved being together. This was a hot August day, a day for adventure before the boys went back to school.

Trevor, 13 years in age and my middle son, was wake boarding and fell into the water. I knew something was wrong, he did not pop up like usual but was facedown in the water, even though he had a lifevest on. As we pulled him up into the boat I was consumed with disbelief of what was happening. I performed CPR as we headed to the dock. Life Flight arrived and flew him to Primary Childrens hospital. After 24 hours on life support my sweet son slipped away. No one can prepare for something like that to happen, and when it does, it is like a nightmare of emotions swirling through your mind. Trevor's death was devastating. I had never felt that kind of pain, my heart was broken. Family and friends rallied around us in this time of sorrow and I felt my angels arms around me, comforting me.

Life goes on, but it is difficult when you are left alone and everyone goes on with their own lives. You are left to hold your head high as you seek to fill that void in your life with positive things. My spiritual awareness began to grow tremendously after the loss of Trevor. I began a journey of spiritual growth, and because of the death that I had just experienced, I had a new level of understanding of life and death.

In 1998 another tragedy hit our little family. I was living the nightmare all over again. I will never forget that sinking feeling in my heart of total helplessness and fear when that phone call came. 

Tyler, my oldest son age 17, was waterskiing for the first time since we had lost Trevor, and had taken a hard fall which led to his drowning. 

Two sons in two years, practically to the day! 

Who would have imagined such a thing? 

I grieved this unimaginable double loss, but my belief system gave me solace. I knew I would see my sons again in another dimension, another time. I honored who they were, what they had brought into my life and what they had taught me in their deaths. I believe that there is purpose in everything and everyone that comes into our lives.

All of us have challenges that come into our lives. Sometimes we create them and sometimes they just happen and we can only choose how we react to them. Honoring and releasing or surrendering to that which "just is" must happen in order to move forward. Having gratitude for what you do have in the moment will bring you closer to more things to be grateful for and you will be able to move forward to greater insight and peace. Live in the present mindfully, with gratitude and embrace it! Every moment can be magical when we are aware and allow our senses to come alive, opening our hearts to all that surrounds us! As a result of this double tragedy in my life, doors opened for me to share a talent and become a Celine Dion tribute artist. 

Music became my healer.  

My Celine act moved forward and I had the special opportunity to meet Celine Dion in Las Vegas at Caesars Palace. I remember distinctly the beautiful energy that she radiated and as we embraced I told her how thankful I was for her and her music, which had inspired not only me, but thousands of others worldwide. Knowing my story she looked at me and said,

"Oh, but it is people like you that inspire me, thank-you." 

I had been blessed to have this experience and I knew I had a story to share.

Life is all about learning, every experience makes us who we are and gives us insight to what what we are becoming. We learn that we are 100% responsible for that which we create in ours lives through choice. I have learned in my life that I can create anything that I desire if I have clear intention of what it is and then have the courage to show up! My mother always said, "The three most important words in the english language are ATTITUDE, ATTITUDE, ATTITUDE!" She was right! I see now how the attitude of gratitude, passion and courage can move us into amazing things! Ignite that which you have passion for, don't waste one experience. Forgive, Love, and have gratitude, gratitude, gratitude! Having joy and peace in our own lives has a far reaching effect into the lives of our families, friends, churches, communities, nation, and our world.


      Bonnie Lee Mahler is an Entertainer, Wellness and Life coach, NLP and Hypnotherapy
      Author of the book EMBRACE THE MOMENT (available HERE and HERE)
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**Bonnie, I hold the fondest memories of our families together in the mountains on four-wheelers and having food-fights with the boys atop a houseboat at Lake Powell. Since the time of both of their deaths, I have admired you so greatly and I speak of you, your story, your courage, and your resiliency to many. Tyler and Trevor hold a very special place in my heart, as does your entire family. Thank you for sharing your journey of deep deep loss and AMAZING triumph with my readers today. You are a bright light and I love you!

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  1. My heart is racing as I'm reading this... I just signed a permission slip for my son to go water skiing this afternoon!!
    But... I so admire your strength and courage!!

  2. I believe God brought me to your blog today to connect you with a dear friend named Angela Anderson who 3 years ago in July 4th lost 2 of her children in an electric shock drowning. I imagine you both could offer hope, encouragement and a connection none of us can fully understand to each other. Thank you for sharing your story.

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  4. I can still remember Tyler's funeral and having YOU comfort ME as I sobbed going through the viewing line. It has been something I have thought about many times, such strength and faith. We just had our 15 year high school reunion and were talking about Tyler and the few others we have lost from our class. He is not forgotten! Thanks for sharing your story!


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