FAQ



Since my journey began 4 years ago, I am often asked a lot of different questions pertaining to the most challenging parts of my life.  Luckily, I have spent much time writing the answers to many of these questions in different blog posts.  If you're new(er) here, hopefully this will give you a good idea of who I am, where I've been, and what I'm all about.

1) WHAT'S YOUR STORY?  
Many people wonder what my "story" is.  They search the blog and can't seem to find the details of what happened.  For personal reasons, I choose to only share so much of my story, but you can find a pretty general idea of what happened by reading here:

2) WHAT DOES "PIONEER WOMAN" MEAN?  
When my therapist, Maurice Harker, likened me unto a pioneer woman during the moments that quite literally felt like hell, it was as if he had hit me over the head with a 2x4.  The light bulb clicked.  I have kicked it into "Pioneer Woman Mode" more times than I can count and honestly, I think being that woman is what saved my life.  In this post, you can read HOW to become a pioneer woman in the modern age:

3) HOW DID YOU KNOW THAT DIVORCE WAS RIGHT FOR YOU? 
This was, without question, the hardest and most terrifying decision I've ever had to make and follow through with.   While all of our situations are different, and each person will ultimately come to this decision in her own time, you can read about my decision here:

4) DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE A FAILURE BECAUSE YOU'RE DIVORCED?
This is a good question... and you know, I did feel like a big HUGE GIGANTIC failure for quite some time.  But I don't feel this way anymore.  That poisonous notion no longer holds me captive.   I was able to break free from that erred thinking... You can read about it here: 

5) I'M SCARED TO GET A DIVORCE BECAUSE OF MY KIDS?
I get it.  I totally get it.  And this was the one thing that terrified me the very most.  What about my Little Dude?  

6) HOW WERE YOU ABLE TO TRUST AGAIN?
This is the million dollar question.  And it's something I am still working on every single day.  Find my secrets to success here:

7) HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH TRIGGERS?
Triggers.  Ugh.  Dreaded triggers.  They creep up on you and engulf your spirit and soul during the most unexpected of times.  You feel paralyzed and completely powerless to them. Read about my experiences and thoughts here:

8) DID BETRAYAL AFFECT YOUR SELF ESTEEM? 
Why yes, yes it did. In more ways than you can ever comprehend.  But I had some self-esteem issues long before my discovery day.  Read about all of that, here (it has 4 parts):

9) HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO DATE AGAIN? 
This is one of the most common questions I am asked.  Dating is tough.  It is SO tough! Whether you've never been married, or you're thrown back into dating after marriage or with kids,  it is tough.  But it can be fun and there is hope :) Here are the best tips I've got:

10) HOW CAN I HELP WOMEN ENDURING SIMILAR HARDSHIPS? 
I wrote a list of those things, that would have been most beneficial for me, here:

11) WHAT IS SETH'S STORY?  
I talk a lot about Seth on the blog and the amazing man/husband he is.  Much of who is he today comes from his incredibly difficult, yet inspiring experiences.  You can read some of those things, here:

12) WHAT DO YOU DO FOR WORK? 
I devote 40+ volunteer hours a week as the Founder and Executive Director of a nonprofit organization called The Togetherness Project.  We empower women to rise above unexpected hardships by providing education, encouragement, and community.  This project has been the most rewarding mission in my life- next to being a wife and mother.  When I help others, I heal... and that is why I do what I do ;) 
You can find more information about our mission, our conferences, and our communities at our website:


If you are reading this right now and you feel alone, ashamed, and like there is little to no hope for you because of sexual addiction/betrayal, infidelity, divorce, abandonment, loss, living a life that you didn't have planned, I have a message for you: 
You are not alone, this is NOT a reflection of you, and there is so much hope.  Let us help you... Join the rare and compassionate sisterhood within The Togetherness Project and begin the road to recovery with friends who understand.


*If you have a question that is not addressed on the blog, feel free to either ask in the comment section of this page or email me  at jacyleeclemons@gmail.com and I will do my very best to get back to you :)





1 comment:

  1. Hey , do you have a post about how you and Seth met? Did he ever struggle with pornography? I can't find it!

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